Selflessly Selfish or Selfishly Selfless!!!

Selflessly Selfish or Selfishly Selfless!!!

What one should be like, selflessly selfish or selfishly selfless!!! It sure sounds like a tongue twister but it is the story of life. No one consciously most of the time want to be a selfish person, just can’t act like a selfless one, some people are selfless no matter what but they are quite conscious about that because being selfless makes them happy they feel satisfaction by a selfless act, which is at the end is very much selfish, but results a good deed, no one can argue that. I am in my cryptic voice saying that no one can be selfless without being naturally selfish. Even in constant need of acquiring a place in heaven religious person acts selflessly, they want a better place after death so they try to act selflessly, so what that makes them?? Little delusional but still selfish, which is natural. A person thinking about people and helping them because that makes them happy and good in the heart so their happiness depends on a selfless act. It is quite complicated isn’t it??

But a selfless act always ends in a good deed, someone helping another without wanting any material stuff in return is very pleasing and assuring that good still exists in this earth, and by a good deed we can start a chain reaction of good in society. But when a selfless act is happens so much consciously that the person acting selflessly actually fueling their own ego and vanity by it, that is very disturbing in a way, what if for some people acting selfless is a way to stay in the limelight and be the center of attraction then what?? In that event the person just stepping toward their own permanent despair and sorrow, when an act being carried out to pump ones ego it cannot be totally satisfying  which can create a feeling of depression and sadness inside that can make someone so negative that they just forgets the pure happiness of being selfless at the first place.

Believing in the fact that we all are naturally selfish but still we can act selfishly selfless can also help us to control our own ego. Knowing the limits of our goodness and the faults that we have, keeps us in the check and we just need to feel good nothing more than that by a single act of kindness. I want to feel happy by helping someone in need and by that I am hoping in near future when I will be in a sticky position someone will help me, and by hoping that I should know that I am selfish by nature and that is my limit, so my ego can never grow and be out of control. I know some people personally who like to brag their good deeds and how great and kind they are that they help everyone around them selflessly, sometime by harming their own interest in the process, but wants the same thing from other people, the expectation is so great that they often get awfully disappointed and unhappy and frustrated. By doing something for someone they need exactly that type of sacrifices from that person is not healthy for either of them. Help from a needy person like that can be feel like a huge burden and by helping with that much expectation can be very disturbing and mentally dis-satisfactory.

No human being is completely good or bad, act selfish or preserving our own priorities are our basic nature or better to say our basic instinct, but with our those basic limits still we developed some philosophy and belief system that we can act selflessly and feel happiness by doing so. It is satisfactory to be kind and helping to others, which can make us happy, but imposing that which we are not can make the situation far worse than it is already. No one should make them do something just to be popular and well-known, when a person themselves believe that they are saint like or the most good and kind hearted person in the world and people should feel gratitude towards them all the time, that is the time that person needs therapy. Expectation can make someone depressed and mentally sad, and frustrated; the people try to act nice just to get attention is more danger to themselves than others. Considering the fact that we are not perfect and little selfish can help us to be selfless in a nicer and wiser way.

Blame It On The Ghost!!!!

Blame It On The Ghost!!!!

Don’t have any answer blame the ghost!!!! Why not they are not coming to confront you or anything, are they?? It is funny really, still some people when fails to explain something they blame it on a ghost or anything supernatural without any logic. Once me and my friend was hanging out in my flat watching a movie on my laptop and having coffee, it was quite normal evening then suddenly the rope which was for hanging clothes and stuff broke of and all clothes scattered on the floor, we were startled, and looked at the mess, I was pretty upset because I have to clear things up, but suddenly my friend said, “Shrutasree your place is haunted, it was definitely a ghost”, I was surprised at her remark, I lived there more or ness 7 months till then and nothing supernatural happened, and it is absurd to think that a ghost is going to waste it’s limited energy on messing my place with clothes, and the rope was little loose to begin with, but no logical explanation made her believe that there was nothing supernatural in my flat. After sometime one day I was visiting her and we were having tea and snacks she said to me, “I was wrong, your place is not haunted at all.” I was happy at first, at last she got hold on her logical part of the brain, and then she told me something that I felt alarmed, “your place is not haunted, but that was a job of a ghost, it happens around me, actually I am haunted.” She believed that a ghost like entity is following her since she was a child, and sometime it acts naughty, and mess things up. She lived in a girls’ hostel, and reported many disturbing incidents, doors are getting slammed, she can’t breathe properly in her sleep, and her roommate is feeling the same. Once she was talking on a phone and walked up to the roof unknowingly and something startled her, it was a huge rooftop; it was very late at night and no one else on the roof. She told me that she was in a trance and did not notice her going to the roof at all.

I thought her breathing problem was a part of sleep paralysis, it is quite common, it can be triggered by heavy stress and workload in life, she had those, and the roommate having the same experience can be logically explain by mass hysteria, listening an explanation again and again can make some people feeling that way. And her trance mode, she is still very absent minded person, doing one thing she just forget everything else around her, only the thing in hand is her whole world, so her trance mode is still very common and little disturbing in a way, and in night sky there is millions of things, night birds, bats anything could have startled her, but no blame it on the ghost.

  

The poor black cats are the saddest victim of superstition, there was an incident when I was in class five, I grew up in a home where my parents never indulged any superstition or illogical beliefs, so I did not knew about  the popular superstitious beliefs and I was more interested in my games and fun, one day I was coming home from school with some friends, we often took a lonely shortcut, and it was fun, no traffic or crowd, just some trees and field and we ran play and walk at the same time, it was very pleasant, so we were talking and laughing amongst ourselves and suddenly a little black kitty crossed our path, it was a little ball of fur, unfortunately the fur was pitch black, my friends freaked out so bad, they were really scared to go forward on that road and insisted upon going back and take the long way home, I was surprised, I liked the kitty, and it was so small to do any harm, if it was a big angry cat then our being scared could have been justified a little. But my friends were determined to go back, but my home was very near then and I was starving and looking forward to have food and sleep cozying up to my grandmother, so I stayed at the same road and tell them to go if they want to go. They left me, even though they thought it was dangerous and the black cat was actually a ghost still they left their friend and ran away. I walked alone; the kitty was sitting under a tree, looked sleepy rather than evil or viscous. After I reached home I found my grandmother waiting for me as usual, I eat and lay down beside her and told her the whole thing. She said to me, “you should not done that, you should have stay with your friends” I was little amazed and curious I asked her if the black cat was really a ghost! She answered, “I don’t know if the poor little cat was anything but a cat, but coming alone was a bad idea, the road was isolated and you are a little girl, you should be more careful, people can do more harm than a ghost or a cat, now remember that and never come home all alone by yourself” she was scared because I was little and coming home alone was not safe for a child. I thought my friend’s grandmothers were not so bright like my grandmother, I loved her very much she, and she never blamed anything on ghost.

But through my teenage years I was desperate to see a ghost or something supernatural, because my friends often tell me stories of their encounters with unknown entity ghost or haunting, they were very serious in describing them, and I felt left out, like ghost did not liked me or something, even my best friend told me once a ghost scratched her hand while she was sleeping. I often scratched my cheek or nose with my nails in sleep but that was it. So I tried to read books about supernatural, tried plan Chet, but my father told me once, it is not wise to look for disturbing things, even for fictional disturbing things it can cloud the mind with useless thoughts and can disrupt logic and common sense. And it was it I got older and busy in everyday life, studies and work I stop looking for ghost to blame on. But I still hear stories of people’s encounter with supernatural, and most of the time they are lying and if not so they need psychiatric help.

I still remember my grandmother’s warning, people can harm more than a ghost or a black cat. It’s true, everyday reading the newspapers I can see her point. The world is haunted but not by ghost or any supernatural beings, it is haunted by humans, we haunt ourselves, and we die, suffer and lost everything by our own hand. Still some people like to blame it on ghosts that is may be easy to see us in a logical perspective. Believing in supernatural is a coping mechanism, but being logical and reasonable is wise. Keeping an open mind is better; I will be happy or excited or even may be scared if I see a ghost, it will mean there is a mystery and something more is hidden. But blaming little messes on a poor black cat or a ghost is not fair, is it?? 

Natural law!!

Natural law!!

It’s been a while that I wrote something, when a lot of thinking happens other affairs just don’t really matters. Thinking is like a constant itching in the brain, about many little issues. Reading and learning about new things, reading something written by a different person with a different mindset can make you feel very confused, it can have a direct conflict with the belief that we have or the facts that we know, or it can corroborate our own view about something. But it is never boring or fruitless. In reality the people who believes that they are realist or logical to follow the conventional methods and rules and fixed goals created by none other than human beings, are not seeing the big picture. Like time nothing stands still, not geography, not the weather or the convention style of living. Everything changes, some slowly or some really fast. The outlook can change but the truth or the facts are always the same. The basic nature of an object will be same, the basic nature of a human being will be the same, but the mode of expression can vary time to time, so how can we decide which mode are right and proper and which is not? People made rules, people created conflict and countries and borders, people created religion different gods and beliefs and hate between different beliefs, so how can we just blindly follow the things created by normal people, just remain ok with it??

Every life born with freedom which is natural, but then becomes bounded by man made rules and restriction which he or she don’t have any influence on, so why live within the line created by other people and do what they supposed to do but not what they could do or want to do? These word can be sounded like words of a rebel, but in reality many of us once in their lifetime think only for a second what they could do if they can think freely without any boundaries. A human brain is one of the most interesting thing in this universe, the potential the power and the future evolution and its result many those things are still unknown, what a brain can do or think or create is exceptional but many lives and minds are just being waste in petty matters and everyday struggle for living. Powerful people the people with the means are the rule makers, no one else, we may live in a society with different class of people but in reality there are only haves and have-nots and that is the brutal truth.

Our life, our dreams, but it’s been decided with an accident, the accident of birth, in which class in which economic condition, in which belief system we born that’s becomes our reality. That one element controls our whole life, some try to break out and be something they want to be and that creates a lot of obstruction in their way. A normal conventional road is easy to walk on, a path decided by other people is easy for a journey, but it cannot lead someone to the destination they desires, in their dreams. Every person is different from other, some are very different from others, but in our society we been taught to hide our differences be like one, act like everyone, in a same manner, but that is a lie, by doing that we constantly murder the very part that makes us unique and different.

One element of us on the stake here, what to do about that? Live like we have been told, let other decide our own path and faith? Or wield a new path as we wish as we choose to walk on, but that is not easy, thinking can be easy sometime or understanding the true nature of someone’s mind but to act like that it needs brutal courage and determination, and with full of hurdles. Even if there is things like afterlife or the next life still the memory we have is of one life’s and the life in present is our only chance to be alive be something that we want, if this slips away nothing can make it up. The dreams the feelings the emotions we have now are the only real thing, are the only things that is ours, everything else is by others for others and made by others. This is the only natural truth and it is in out nature, now can we act on natural law or the law few man made for their own benefit??